Harlows Head

Some days it’s ok to not be ok.

My soul is heavy today. I’ve channeled, meditated, grounded, saged the shit out of myself, and still feel the same.

Guides a little help here?

What I’ve come to realize in this soul shaking journey I’m traveling on is, that it’s ok to not be ok sometimes. Life cannot be all flowers and magic. We are, in fact, living in a human body with real human emotions.

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Having said that, through trial and error, here are some things I have found that will help lighten a heavy mood.


Go outside

I made this number one because, quite frankly, it needs to be. Ever hear of light therapy? What about grounding? Light therapy, sometimes called heliotherapy, is the use of daylight or other light emitting apparatuses to treat a number of illnesses. It’s all about the vitamin D baby.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a mood disorder featuring depressive symptoms, occurs during the dark times of the year when there is relatively little sunshine, coinciding with the sudden drop in vitamin D levels in the body. Several studies have suggested that the symptoms of SAD may be due to changing levels of vitamin D3, which may affect serotonin levels in the brain.
Source: https://www.themojolab.com

So, now that you have the sun bathing warmth upon your skin, its time to take your shoes off.  I know, I know I can see your face now.  My what??? Yes, your shoes and socks if you are wearing them. Then, I want you to walk out to a nice warm patch of grass and just stand there.  That’s it. Think of your feet as roots that are penetrating the soil and going deep into the earth.

Not to be confused with Earthing, which sadly my soul sister and I shelled out almost $60 to try with little to no effect. ;/ You can read her rather humourus take on the subject here.

The benefits have actually been scientifically proven.  This is a snippet from an article by the National Center for Biotechnology Information.

Reconnection with the Earth’s electrons has been found to promote intriguing physiological changes and subjective reports of well-being. Earthing (or grounding) refers to the discovery of benefits—including better sleep and reduced pain—from walking barefoot outside or sitting, working, or sleeping indoors connected to conductive systems that transfer the Earth’s electrons from the ground into the body.

So, what are you waiting for? Get naked and go outside!


Meditate and voice your intentions.

Kyo dake wa; okoru na….  One of the five Usui principles in Japanese.  Want to know them all?  You can learn them here. I first came across these principles when studying for my Reiki level one training. (I’ll discuss Reiki more later). Sometimes we get angry, either being at our spouse, our kids, laundry…it all builds up (ok laundry literally) and unless you find ways to disperse the anger, it will fester…rise, until it explodes.  Leaching out of you in a vile ball of negative energy.  And let’s face it, no one deserves to be on the receiving end of that. Ok, maybe a few people… He turned the channel while I was watching the olympics..he had it coming, just saying. 😉

So try this next time you are overwhelmed, first identify which emotion is causing you distress.  Is it anger…jealousy? Then imagine that emotion as a word surrounded by a big ball of light.  Pick a color that best suits the mood for your light.  For instance, if I’m angry most of the time my ball of light that I envision is orangish red. Now visualize that ball and say the word aloud.  Own it.  Close your eyes and place your hands out in front of you as if you are cupping that ball of light.  Then repeat the phrase.  Just for today; I will not be ______. Each time you repeat the mantra let the ball get a little larger.  Do this until you can visualize the ball dispersing into a thousand tiny particles.  Once you have successfully done that, take a few deep breaths and open your eyes. Meditation doesn’t have to be all ommm and sitting crossed legged next to a beautiful mountain spring. It can be doing anything you enjoy.  Cooking, hiking…taking a long hot bath.  It’s all about freeing your mind.


Wear loose clothing.

This one I just experienced first hand.  As I’m typing this wearing skinny jeans, a tank, bra, and shirt I had to stop, throw my bra across my office, undo the button on my jeans all the while yelling, “I CAN’T BREATHE.” So yeah, if you can take off that bra and undo those jeans and take in a deep breath, do it.


Listen to music

What kind of music do you like to listen to?  For me it’s all deepening on what I‘m doing and what mood I‘m in.  Lately, I’ve fallen in love with Freya Ridings.  Her angelic voice instantly soothes my nerves and puts me at ease.  And if you are brave (or alone), accompany your favorite song with dance.  I have been known to do a mean tango with my broom.

Get creative

Studies show that engaging in right brain engaging activities (writing, painting, etc) have been found to reduce cortisol levels and improve your overall mood. I’m not saying you have to paint like Picasso or write like King, thank goodness the brain doesn’t care. I once attended a paint party. When my girlfriend invited me I’m like, “what the hell is a paint party?” She leaned over and whispered, “who cares, they serve wine.”  I quickly agreed and ended up having a blast.  Did my work compare to a Rembrandt?  Hell no, but my spirits never dampened the entire time I was there.

Here’s a list of things to try:

Knit/crochet (I can crochet a straight line, does that count?)
Write (novel, journal, poetry…hell even a freaking bucket list counts)
Sing/listen to music
Take/edit pictures

I could go on but my brain is starting to hurt haha.

So when in doubt, go right.


And finally if nothing else works…let it go.

Big girls don’t cry.  We’ve all heard the song.  Well, I call bullshit.  It’s the tough ones that know when to bawl like a fucking baby.  Sometimes, you have to let it out and tell yourself It’s ok to cry.  It’s ok to feel.

One time when I was working on opening up my throat chakra out of nowhere a voice said to me “Scream, Harlow.” Of course, I answered “what do you mean?” Yes, I’m having a conversation with myself at this point.

So, I did.  I made sure I was alone, warned the dog, and let it out. I’m talking horror movie the blonde gets offed first kind of scream. The kind that leaves your throat instantly raw. Oh, and on a side note, make sure you cover your ears when you do…yikes.

I felt instantly alive…free. We spend so many years bottling up our emotions. Told that you are not supposed to show fear, pain, or jealousy. It’s sad really.

Now, I’m not saying release them on somebody.  Make sure you are channelling your emotions when you let them go.  OR you can do what I have done in the past.  Hit something. That’s right, you didn’t read that wrong.  Hit something.  Hit your pillow, or couch, or bed. I personally go to the gym and do my heavy bag routine when I’m angry while blaring ‘Let The Bodies Hit the Floor’ by Drowning Pool.

So, when in doubt, let it out.




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